This is the prettiest cocktail – what a fun signature drink for your wedding reception!
This is genius and will be an especially meaningful reading to share with couples who have a doggie in their lives ; )
Thank you to the gorgeous Rachel and Chris who shared this with me.
Here are the words if you would like to use them in your ceremony. Remember when sharing readings, where the author is known, please credit them : )
FALLING IN LOVE IS LIKE OWNING A DOG
First of all, it’s a big responsibility,
especially in a city like New York.
So think long and hard before deciding on love.
On the other hand, love gives you a sense of security:
when you’re walking down the street late at night
and you have a leash on love
ain’t no one going to mess with you.
Because crooks and muggers think love is unpredictable.
Who knows what love could do in its own defense?
On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.
Love doesn’t like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.
Is love good all the time? No! No!
Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.
Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don’t you ever do that again!
Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise.
It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
It pulls you in several different directions at once,
or winds around and around you
until you’re all wound up and can’t move.
But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.
Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.
This game is also known as the Shoe Game – instead of holding the Brides Bouquet and the Grooms handkerchief – try holding each others shoes. (Saves a bit of confusion too.)
This couples answers are hilarious – and great MC too : )
When December swings around, many of us indulge in one holiday tradition or another. For some it’s setting up a Christmas tree just so, for others it’s to go on a wild gingerbread house-baking spree.
One thing that everyone seems to hold dear is a go-to holiday film they screen every year – and one of those is Love Actually. Octopus costumes! Dancing Hugh Grant! First love! Emma Thomson bawling her eyes out to Joni Mitchell. Personally, I have to say I am not a Love Actually fan, but I know alot of you are – and for those of you who are not but believe in love, here’s how to have a lucky in love Xmas Love Actually style…
♥ Dance like nobody’s watching: CC: Hugh Grant The Prime Minister. And Sarah when she (nearly) bags Karl (sob).
♥ Create a new swearword: Go on, get creative and make something Billy Mack would be proud of. Someone is bound to piss you off royally during the silly season.
♥ Seduce a politician: Or two, if you’re a bit of a Natalie.
♥ Learn a musical instrument to impress your true love: If it worked for young Sam, and countless nerds who have gone on to become rock stars, you’ve got a shot.
♥ Go skinny-dipping: We have the good fortune of our Christmas being in Summer, plus glorious beaches – so no need to dive head first into a conspicuous lake.
♥ Spend Christmas in a foreign country: If the geeky awkward guy managed to bag a bunch of babes via his cheeky accent, perhaps you will too.
♥ Embrace the emotive female-driven pop: Dido, SugarBabes, Girls Aloud, Mariah… need we go on?
♥ Tell someone you love them: Holding up giant cards declaring, “Just because it’s Christmas” “(and at Christmas you tell the truth)” :’(
♥ Spend some quality time with a close mate: Christmas doesn’t have to be all about family, you know. Bring over a bottle of something and reminisce about the years gone by.
♥ Christmas wrap like a BOSS: Who would have thought Mr Bean was such a precise prezzie wrapper?
♥ Perform your favourite Christmas song with ‘new and improved’ lyrics: Performance must include saucy back-up dancers.
♥ Throw a dress up party: We hear lobsters and octopi make great costumes, even if eight is a lot of legs.
♥ Stand up for yourself: Prime Minister Hugh was not going to just stand there and let President Billy Bob violate “Britain”, so if you’ve got something to say, now’s your chance.
♥ Flirt in a strange situation: It will make for a great story later – and after all, it panned out for John and Judy.
♥ Embrace the PDA: Go on, propose to your partner with a whole Portuguese village watching, or launch yourself onto your lover at the airport, we won’t judge.
♥ Surrender to the total agony of being in love. Sam may be young, but he knows what’s up.
A meaningful touch to your Wedding Day is a ‘Fight Box’. Before your big day, find a beautiful wooden box, a bottle of wine (if you drink), and two glasses. Write love notes to each other, explaining your feelings as you prepare to start your new life together as marriage partners. Seal your letter without letting your soon-to-be read what you’ve written.
During the ceremony, place the love notes inside the wooden box with the wine and glasses. Take turns hammering the box shut, one nail at a time, until the box is sealed.
Agree to keep the box sealed until a special anniversary, like your 10th or 20th, unless you hit a rough patch. Then, break open the box, pour the wine, read the letters, and reminisce about what brought you together!
Seeing as My Darling Husband is Serbian I was interested to see what a traditional Serbian Wedding involved. I found this post of a western Bride’s account of her marriage to a Serb which is hilariously fabulous…makes me wish we’d have done it Serb-style! Check out the highlights:
There is no dress frenzy. Rather than spending thousands of dollars on a dress you only get to wear once, Serbian brides simply rent one for a fraction of the cost. Brilliant, huh?
Pre-wedding festivities in Serbia are radically different from the North American blitz of engagement parties, bridal showers, bachelorettes, spa days, and hair and makeup trials. There is little doting over brides in the days preceding (or even the day of) the wedding.
After several days of hard drinking and dancing in Belgrade’s numerous bars, cafes, and splavs (floating nightclubs), I found myself on my last day of singledom sitting in a small café with my sister-in-law, Aleksandra. Chain-smoking and pounding back vodka
The crowning moment
I insisted that the wedding take place in Belgrade’s Saborna Crkva, the cathedral in which Serbian King Peter was crowned in 1904.
This sense of majesty is extended even further in the symbolic crowning common to all Orthodox wedding ceremonies. The typical Saborna Crkva wedding involves large golden crowns.
My princess-excitement hit full throttle as the chanting priest crowned me and we walked around the cathedral, my train floating happily behind. I had no idea what the hell the choir was singing or what the Orthodox priest was asking me, but I felt pretty spectacular with a big-ass crown on my head.
Ain’t no party like a Belgrade party
This brings me to yet another difference between North American and Serbian wedding traditions: absent is the obscene “once in a lifetime” money-spending on tabletop decor, vintage-inspired Etsy finds, gourmet hors d’oeurves, photobooths, and commemorative take-home junk for guests.
There aren’t even any speeches, embarrassing garter belt removals, or “win the centerpiece” games. Rather, the hallmarks of solid Serbian wedding receptions are meat laden platters, hard drinking immediately following the ceremony, the kolo (joyous dancing in circular formation), and rambunctious Gypsy brass bands. I was on-the-floor drunk by the time the cake arrived, two giant firecrackers blazing out of its sides.
Read the full account here.
These are things we all know, but need to be reminded of. Here’s some tips proven by professionals…
♥ Show your appreciation every day. “From morning until night, couples have the opportunity to offer words of affirmation, appreciation and adoration to one another as well as the chance to offer nonverbal cues as well” Nonverbal cues are anything from a wink to a kiss to a smile. What can you do to celebrate your partner today?
♥ Surprise your partner. Small surprises also make the everyday special, according to Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., a psychotherapist and author of Emotional Fitness for Couples. He suggested leaving a love note on the fridge, in the shower or in your partner’s pocket; leaving a loving or sexy voicemail; or sending a card to work. How about breakfast in bed, flowers or even a singing telegram at work.
♥ Block out time to be together. “At the beginning of a relationship, the excitement and anxiety of connecting with a new partner makes time together a top priority,” said psychologist Ryan Howes, Ph.D. “When that urgency goes away and we start to feel comfortable, time for the relationship becomes a lower priority.” And, of course, it becomes especially tough to find spontaneous pockets of time when you’re working, taking care of a family and already feeling exhausted. But as Howes said, “if we don’t make time to feed the relationship, it withers.” Schedule a time each week for just the two of you — with few exceptions. See a movie or dine out. Or do something more low-key like talking, listening, cooking or just lying on the couch together. “The idea is to make each other a priority,” Sumber said.
♥ Devise your dream getaway. Together, look at brochures or websites and discuss what a great getaway would look like. “Even if you don’t have the time or money right now, the process may be just what you need to inspire yourselves,” Goldsmith said.
♥ Take turns planning dates. This way one partner isn’t doing all the planning and organizing. “It also allows us to think about what our partner might really desire that we may not be doing often enough,” Sumber said.
♥ Mix things up. Routines are par for the course in a long-term relationship. But you can easily break them! “Doing new things together releases oxytocin in the brain, which is one of the chemicals that makes us feel all atwitter when a relationship is fresh,” Goldsmith said. Enjoy a trip together, try out new restaurants or take a day off to be with each other, Howes said. In other words, “Zig where you usually zag once in a while,” he said.
♥ Take a class together. This also is a great way to bust out of a relationship rut. “Learning something new together will make you both feel more connected and help you discover parts of your relationship that may have been hidden,” Goldsmith said. Try a cooking class or a sports lesson such as golf or tennis. Goldsmith even suggested taking a CPR class.
♥ Pick activities that are out of the ordinary. Out-of-the-ordinary activities also shake up ruts and routines. Feast your eyes on the full moon or throw a costume or theme party, Goldsmith said.
♥ Spend 30 minutes a day just talking. According to Howes, this helps couples maintain a deeper connection. Consider asking your partner about his or her day or even his or her greatest fear, he said. Discuss what you want from your relationship and what you appreciate about each other.
Ask them anything you’re curious about, Howes said. “There are probably a few hundred facts about your partner that you are unaware of,” Goldsmith said. Talk to them about their favorite things, dreams and passions.
♥ Do chores. When you think romance, the last thing that pops into your head is mopping, washing the dishes and scrubbing the toilet. But many people feel loved and cared for when their partners help out around the house, Howes said.
♥ Remember what first sparked your love. Doing so helps you appreciate where you are now as a couple, Goldsmith said. If it’s possible, he suggested going back to the place you met and reliving your first date.
♥ Give up a grudge. Resentment kills romance, Howes said. A grudge builds a wall between partners, he said. “Make forgiveness a regular part of the relationship by expressing how you feel, trying to understand what happened, asking for assurance it won’t happen again and then letting go by deciding not to hold the misdeed over your partner’s head,” he said.
♥ Have a lazy weekend together. Pick a day to just do nothing with your partner, Goldsmith said. “Spend a day as human beings rather than human-doings.” These lazy days will feel revitalizing and bring you closer.
♥ Do more things together. These don’t have to be grand gestures. Just going to bed and waking up together and eating together can go a long way, Goldsmith said.
♥ Be intimate. “Intimacy is not negotiable in a healthy, long-term partnership,” Sumber said. “Touch is one of the most nurturing forces in the universe,” Goldsmith said. If you’re iffy on your partner touching you, it’s important to explore what’s going on and work on it, he said. Communication builds intimacy, according to Sumber. “Intimacy is all about connection, openness, and vulnerability, so fostering healthy, consistent communication is the bridge to regular intimacy,” Sumber said. This means hearing and listening to your partner and truly wanting to understand what they’re saying.
♥ Eat at the dinner table. Have a romantic dining experience at home – turn the tv off and focus on each other and the food that was made with love.
♥ Technology free nights. This is one of my favourites – tune out and tune into your partner. Make it a massage night or have a cosy early night reading in bed together.
Here are some cute alternatives for your ringbearer to carry instead of the rings on a pillow or in a box.
Our little Jack Russell carried our rings down the aisle in a Tiffany pouch tied to her collar – she stole the show!!
If you go for the last option – you would have to make sure your ringbearer is over 18!!