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Are you going to change your name?

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With the press reporting recently married Spice Girl (remember them?) Geri Halliwell, has announced, via social media, that she’s taken on her new Formula 1 Red Bull team boss husbands name.

It’s very sweet and poses quite an important question… Are you going to take your husbands name?

Being an older first time bride it felt a bit weird changing the name I’d been known by all my life. It also seemed a bit disloyal to my own family. Silly I know but I put off calling myself by my husbands name for a while. It’s not like you formally have to apply for a change of name by deed poll or anything. You can if you wish, but it’s easier to gradually change your legal documents like drivers license, passport etc when they’re up for renewal.

My other reason for not being in a rush to switch to my husbands surname is that it’s a bit of a Serbian mouthful, unlike my easy to pronounce English maiden name. So I delayed the pain, of having to spell it out and repeat it several times every time I say it, for as long as I could.

Saying that, at the time we got married and I updated my facebook status to ‘married’ I did change display name! Just like Geri Horner.

And even though the Spice Girls were incredibly naff even when they were famous, Mr and Mrs Horner do make a cute couple. Good on you Ginger Spice for keep up tradition.

 

As a side note, a bride recently asked me how to go about changing your name. It’s easy – rather than going through the rigmarole of officially applying to change your name as you would via deed poll – you can simply just wait til documents are up for renewal – like drivers license and passport and when you apply for your new one, just record your new married name and provide your original Marriage Certificate as proof.

Keep in mind when you sign your Marriage Documents on your wedding day, you must sign with your maiden name.

And I would recommend travelling under your maiden name on your honeymoon to avoid any confusion between airline tickets and your passport – as you won’t have time to update your passport! We wouldn’t want you to have any hiccups on your honeymoon!

How to Accessorise Your Wedding Dress

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Speaking of bling – now we’ve gotten over the fact most of us will probably never have the excitement of wearing millions of dollars worth of accessories… once you’ve found your gown, read advice on picking the perfect accessories for you…

Match Your Metals

You may not realize this, but some metals look better with certain dress colors. As a general rule, ivory is best paired with gold since it highlights the creamy tint of the fabric. For a pure white dress, choose accents in silver or platinum or with pearl detailing—gold may clash with brighter white hues. You can have your pick with a diamond-white gown—this barely off-white color looks amazing with yellow gold, rose gold, silver or pearls. If the dress you chose is already embellished with beadwork, let that dictate the colors of your accessories. For example, if your gown has silver beading, pick a necklace, bracelet or earrings with a silver base.

Remember: Less Is More

You don’t need a veil, tiara, earrings, necklace and a sash. Accessories add a unique touch to your look, but even one too many can be over-the-top with an already-embellished gown. Before you start buying, take an inventory of your gown’s stand-out features and then base your choices around them. If your dress has an ornate neckline, opt for a pair of drop earrings instead of a necklace (that might look too busy). For a gown with a simpler style, try a bold statement necklace or a fascinator. When it comes to earrings, take a cue from your hairstyle. If you’re leaving your hair down and over your ears, small studs or drops will do. But for an updo, you might want something a little more dramatic, like a pair of chandelier danglers. And lastly, it’s always a good idea to avoid designs that closely mimic the embellishments on your gown—you don’t want to look too matchy-matchy.

Know Your Veils

The veil is the iconic bridal accessory. From flirty birdcages and ornate mantillas to regal cathedral-length styles, there’s no shortage of options. But there are a few things you should keep in mind as you narrow down the type of veil you plan to wear:

  • You’ll want your veil to match the exact shade of your gown. Color blocking is better left to your day-to-day look.
  • Be mindful when choosing a style. If your dress has a lot going on, stick with something simple that won’t steal the spotlight.
  • If showing off the back of your dress is a must—say you have gorgeous embroidery or beading—choose a sheer veil rather than one with two layers of tulle.
  • Consider your size: Longer waltz or floor-length veils will elongate a petite frame while mid-length styles, like fingertip or elbow-length veils, can visually cut you in half, making them a better pick for taller brides. Short styles, like a birdcage or bandeau, work for all shapes and sizes and lend a fun, retro vibe to your gown.

Top It Off

Veils not really your thing? From combs to fascinators, there are plenty of other ways to top off your look. Choose your hairstyle before you pick your accessory, since some types will look better with updos than others. A flower crown, for example, is best with loose locks. You should also consider your hair type—dainty accessories may be perfect for fine hair, but won’t be as noticeable with thick waves. Most importantly, make sure whatever you pick feels secure while you’re moving around.

Think Beyond Earrings

Looking for a super-simple way to add a bit of personality to your wedding dress (and help create the illusion of curves)? Add a belt or sash. Just because your dress doesn’t come with one, doesn’t mean it won’t look great—a fashionable fastener is an easy way to customize your gown and change its look without having to make expensive alterations. And whether you go with a classic satin sash or a metallic leather belt, it’ll give your dress an instant upgrade. The key to choosing the right waist-cincher is to find one that works with your body type. Thin belts are best suited to short torsos, while wider belts work well with longer ones. If you’re an apple shape, think about a beaded or heavily embellished belt to flatter your midsection. If you’re petite, a belt with V-shape appliqué will elongate your body. As a general rule, stick with a style that’s no more than three-inches wide—you don’t want to overpower the rest of your gown.

Keep It Comfy

No outfit is complete without the perfect pair of shoes—and your wedding day look is no exception. Of course you’ll want a killer pair to go with that gorgeous dress, but that doesn’t mean you have to compromise on comfort. Don’t forget: You’ll be standing for long periods of time, and you don’t want to be cringing in pain before you’ve even hit the dance floor. While shopping, consider the height of the heel (obviously the taller you go, the higher the pain potential), the type of straps and the material. Your feet need to be well supported (think: ankle and toe straps over slip-ons) to avoid instability. Look for high quality, natural materials. They’re infinitely more comfortable than synthetic ones and are also a lot more durable, meaning you’ll be able to wear them again.

For the best fit, go shopping at the end of the day, when your feet are swollen from activity, and give yourself plenty of time to break in your new kicks before the wedding. Wear them around the house a couple weeks prior to the day, noting any areas that are prone to blisters. To make your shoes more comfortable, consider buying moleskin, heel grips, strap stickers or gel insoles designed specifically for heels. Shoes too strappy to conceal an insole or grip? Pick up a spray, wax or cream that protects against friction or provides anti-inflammatory pain relief to keep your feet happy.

Cover It Up

A stylish cover-up is a must if you’re getting married during the cooler months or at a house of worship that requires you to cover your shoulders. From boleros to capelets and fur stoles, the options are endless. The key is to choose one that strikes the perfect balance with your gown. Simple, understated styles can be paired with more embellished cover-ups, like a beaded capelet with scalloped edges or a bold sequined or feather bolero for added personality. For already ornate gowns, try a more minimal accent to avoid looking too over-the-top. A delicate lace jacket, sheer tulle cape or a chiffon wrap will keep you warm without competing with your gown. Another option? A classic cardigan, the perfect complement to a rustic or more laid-back affair.

Consider Your Décolletage

Pairing your neckline style with the proper adornment can add character to your wedding gown, or even highlight a unique feature. Follow these simple guidelines:

Sweetheart or strapless: For something a little different, skip the necklace and focus on an elegant pair of chandelier earrings instead. Wear clear crystal for a sleek look, or add punch with a hint of color. Try using a meaningful gem, like your birthstone, or pick a hue from the flowers in your bridal bouquet. If you’re going for a flirty, fresh look, include two or three small fresh or silk flowers in your hair to add a soft, organic feel. Vintage elegance more your style? Pay homage to the past with an art-deco-style bracelet or some Roaring Twenties–inspired feather barrettes.

V-neck: Whether you opt for a pendant or a choker, this style begs for a little décolletage decoration. A thin chain with a simple pendant, like a locket, is an elegant way to accessorize, while pearls (single- or double-stranded) are always a classic choice. If you’re going for a more decadent look, a crystal choker or statement necklace with matching earrings could be the perfect combo.

Halter or reverse halter: For this shoulder-baring style, skip the necklace and focus on dressing up your tresses. Headbands are a great way to add panache to your wedding updo, be it a sleek bun or a loose ponytail. But if headbands aren’t quite your style, try adding some sparkle to your hair with intricate crystal hairpins. If you’ve got a curly mane, five to seven hairpins is the perfect number, while brides with thinner locks (or shorter hair) need fewer—just two or three pins will do the trick

Stick to What You Know

Although it’s a special day, don’t stray too far from your normal style. If you rarely wear jewels, there’s no need to drown yourself in diamonds on your wedding day. The goal is to look like the best, most beautiful version of your regular self.

Advice courtesy of theknot.com

Important things to remember for your Wedding Day…

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Get the marriage license The administrative details are the least fun to attend to, and the easiest to forget. But this piece of paper tells the state you are legally married and is, therefore, super important. When you work with Kimberly Sanders Marriage Celebrant, she’ll remind you!

Find the right bra The right bra will make you look infinitely better—trust us on this one. Get fitted by a professional and find the style that fits best with the cut of your dress. It will make all the difference—not only on your wedding day, but every day.

Break in your shoes You are about to have an incredible—and incredibly long—day. You’ll be on your feet for hours, so remember to get comfortable shoes and break them in early. Make sure your bridesmaids do the same!

Pack for your honeymoon If you’re jetting right after the wedding, pack before any nuptials festivities begin. That way, you won’t be frantically grabbing things the night before and, instead, you can enjoy that time with relatives and friends.

Shave! Or better still get a course of laser hair removal! Make sure your legs and underarms are smooth so that you don’t have to be self-conscious while you’re dancing or raising your glass for a toast. If you plan on changing into a shorter cocktail dress for your reception, take extra care to set a reminder.

Start your beauty treatment months in advance Or give yourself at least four weeks before your wedding date to get a facial or do anything else drastic different from your usual routine. You do NOT want your face to be red and sensitive on your big day.

Mind the sun If your wedding is outdoors when the sun is at its peak, prepare fans for your guests and remind them to wear sunglasses. Remember to time your ceremony appropriately so that guests are not in the heat for too long. And check out these handy hints.

Wedges (or barefeet) are the best for outdoor weddings Wedges are so much more convenient and easier to manoeuvre in than high heels, especially if your wedding is outdoors. Otherwise, you may end up getting stuck when you’re in the middle of walking down your grass aisle.

Wear a robe during hair and makeup Before you sit down for hair and makeup, make sure you and your bridesmaids are wearing robes or even hoodies you can easily take off without having to pull them over your heads. That way, your beauty looks will remain intact.

Remember essentials You carry them every day and you definitely don’t want to forget them on the BIG day. Carry your lippy, facial spritzer, perfume, oil-blotting papers and whatever else you may need in a chic clutch your maid of honor/mother/sister can carry or have nearby.

Check that sound system and remember batteries and chargers It would be a shame if you were surrounded by your friends and family, only to have them not hear your vows—which is what happened at our wedding (our sound guy completely dropped the ball). Kimberly will advise you whether you need a mic and speaker for your ceremony.

Drink up! And we don’t mean the champagne. Between the heat, dancing and celebratory toasts, you need to stay properly hydrated. Ask one of your bridesmaids to remind you to drink water throughout the day.

Schedule your photo shots Talk to your photographer about how much time he/she will require to get the shots you want and create gaps in the day accordingly.

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Another happy couple!

How to include kids in your wedding

Cute-kids-wedding kimberly sanders lucky in love marriage celebrant aucklandWhether they be your own children, family or friends children, there are so many neat ways you can include them and give them special roles in your big day.

My favourite has to be the Wright family who I was lucky enough to marry on the 1st of January this year. Michael was marrying Maree and they were becoming a family including Maree’s three cute kids! The two daughters walked Maree up the aisle where Michael and their son were waiting for them. After Maree and Michael exchanged rings Michael presented the children with some beautiful gifts to symbolise the start of their new life as a united family – it was just gorgeous (although their son was worried he was going to be given a pretty necklace like the girls as well!). The children remained at the altar throughout the ceremony with their eldest daughter reciting a poem before I pronounced them ‘the Wright family’ Michael!

Here are some other great ideas:

Traditionally children have been included in the bridal party as ring bearers, flowergirls, page boys or ushers.

Older children may like to be marriage partnersmaid or best woman/man.

Adult children may be witnesses to your marriage.

Children can also walk their parents down the aisle.

A special exchange could happen from parents to children – the girls could receive necklaces and the boys could be given age appropriate watches.

As we saw in the Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt wedding – you could even have your children decorate your wedding dress! A less risky creative option however may be to let them make decorations to be included in your theming.

If your children are of a certain age appropriate vows could be crafted for them.
Unity Ceremonies are also an option which the entire family can be involved with. There is the Candle Ceremony, Sand Ceremony or Rose Petal Ritual which there are a few variations of.

For babies, you could theme their cot to match your wedding colours and have at the altar with you.

However you decide to include the children – just don’t do this:

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To be happy

 

I’ve always meant to read one of the books about the Dalai Lama – he is up there with Mother Teresa in terms of world peace humanitarianism isn’t he.

In comparison most of us can only hope to reach a minute state of the serenity and level of compassion of these incredible role models – but the point is to keep trying. I’ve tried through http://meditateinauckland.org but the young Buddhist (lady) monk was so relaxing I found it hard to stay awake! 

Then recently I found a book on the Dalai Lamas teachings lying on a bus stop seat (seriously) when I had just got a book out of the library – The Wisdom of Forgiveness – a lovely set of stories by the Dalai Lama written/transcribed by  Victor Chan – who by chance met 30 or so years ago and maintained a friendship of sorts. I knew I was on the right track and the universe was giving me the message I needed! One interview goes like this:

Victor: Let’s not talk about difficult things like nirvana or enlightenment. But what do you want to achieve?

The Dalai Lama: To be happy. My practise helps me lead a useful life. If I can give some short moment of happiness to others, then I feel that my life has achieved some purpose. This gives me deep mental satisfaction – this feeling always comes if you serve others. So, when I help others, I feel happy. For me, the most important thing is human compassion, a sense of caring for one another.

Then it dawned on me – this is why I became a marriage celebrant!! So I feel helpful to others (and hopefully add a little value for them during a major life event) and has the added bonus that it makes me happy!

Deep I know. But true!

April Fools Marriage Proposal

OMG – I think the Bride proves she makes fantastic marriage material – she stays incredibly calm under the pressure of a potential plane crash!

Sorry, wanted to post this on April Fools Day (although it is still April Fools somewhere in the world!)

Chinese Wedding Dress

  

Wow! What a stunning wedding photo! The BMW complements the Brides red dress.

I stumbled across this photo opportunity of a photo shoot on my lunch break! Funnily enough the informal wedding reception was being held at the cafe I was going to!

I think the Chinese red wedding dress is very beautiful – red is the traditional colour of good luck and auspiciousness. Today most eastern brides wear western white wedding dresses for the actual ceremony and change into the red dress for the tea ceremony afterwards. 

The tea ceremony is the most significant event in a modern chinese wedding as the traditional three prayers ceremony is usually not practiced.

The bride is formally introduced to the groom’s family through the chinese wedding tea ceremony. It will usually take place on the wedding day when most of the family members are present.

What a lovely idea!